Monthly Archives: August 2013

Words can hurt too

I’ve been a counselor for a year now and I’m still amazed by the fact children think someone has to hit you to hurt you.  I explained what verbal abuse was to a young girl today and she didn’t seem to understand the concept.  I think children who hear negative things about themselves over and over again begin to believe and accept these insults as part of who they are.  In short order, they will begin what becomes a self fulfilling prophecy.   How do you begin to address the pain inflicted by words?  Start by teaching kids they have a right to believe wonderful things about themselves.


What’s wrong with polka dots and stripes?

I recently saw a parent have a hissy fit because their child put on a pair of tennis shoes which didn’t match his outfit.  How much of our self esteem is wrapped up in our children’s appearance and behavior?  If we were all absolutely honest, we’d say ‘quite a bit’.  How our children turn out is some kind of validation that we too are talented, intelligent and goal oriented.  What we forget to see is that child with the audacity to wear pink everyday or mismatched socks has already learned the lesson that some of us spend our entire lives striving towards.  Be yourself!!

Back to school in The Big Easy

It’s that time of year parents both dream of and dread; back to school.  The pros; you no longer have to entertain your kid or pay for someone else to do that all day.  The cons: endless paperwork, homework, extracurricular activities and the grind of drop off and pick up.  Yet, when your kids start to tell you they’re ready to go back, the summer has truly come to an end.  Our summer ended with a gymnastics championship in Kentucky and both my older girls coming home for a week before they return to college and work.  I can’t believe how different our lives are from what I’d envisioned at this age.  I thought I would still be sewing for a living, not completing a Masters, starting a new career in counseling and publishing my first children’s storybook, “Shybug”.  It’s a reminder we should never close any doors on opportunity or change for the future. This is the same idea I try to share with my 10 year old as she embarks on another year of elementary education.